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Late night

Just got back from a party at a friend's place. It was actually his girlfriend's birthday party but he invited me too (probably so he could have some sane company). Unfortunately the situation got icky very quickly. She was upset for the beginning of the night because another friend didn't like her new haircut (it's a fucking haircut, get over yourself!) and she knows that this particular friend will poke fun at anything he can. Then my buddy tries to find out what's wrong, and when he realizes how stupid it is, he gets into a bad mood... for the rest of the night. She ends up drinking until she's all happy and giddy and doesn't give a fuck... he's still in a bad mood. At first she didn't seem to mind that I was there and was laughing and joking with me, but then it started to feel like she was not happy about my being there at all. I'm sure I heard her whispering about me a few times (drunk people aren't that good at being subtle) and I have the feeling she things I'm fucking her boyfriend (uhm.... no... I dig chicks thanks). Anyway, it just got worse when we all went to a movie (which I ended up really enjoying - Pirates of the Carribean) and she chose not to sit beside my friend (her bf) but rather sit in a whole different section of the theatre with her other friend and the friend's boyfriend. Needless to say that didn't help my friend's mood and he hated the movie on top of it (though I'm not entirely convince his opinion of the movie wasn't tainted by the rest of the shit).

Despite all this, I'm actually having a pretty good night. I have a feeling that relationship is going nowhere fast at this point... but I do hate people being rude and whispering and giggling when other people are around. Even if it wasn't about me, that just fucking rude!
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(drunk people aren't that good at being subtle)

That brings back a memory of 15 year old me at 6 am in my friend's living room, facing his parents whom I'd woken up I'm sure.

I whispered in his ear "DON'T TELL THEM WE WERE DRINKING AT THE BAR!!!"

*laughs* no, drunk people aren't good at being subtle.

I don't like situations like that either, they seem so petty. Jealousy, unfounded or not is just a sign of insecurity... sad.
haha, that's too funny!

You know I almost wish that my friend's girlfriend had been drunk enough to say something to me about it so I could have told her how stupid she's being. It's like "read my lips! I'M NOT INTERESTED IN YOUR BOYFRIEND!" Sheesh, I guess that's just it, I'm a girl, he's a boy, therefore there MUST be something going on. All I'm thinking is "grow up" we aren't in high school anymore.

Unfortunately she sounds like the type that if you told her you weren't interested in boys... she'd want to beat you up.

It's about insecurity. She doesn't like herself. That's all jealousy is ever about.

a) they don't believe they are good enough for their partner to stay with them
b) they don't want to be alone with themselves - it frightens them

Sad, but true.
That's exactly what it seems like to me too. He's been trying to be patient with her and talk to her about what the problems are, but she doesn't seem to want to listen or make any changes. I believe she is very insecure, but like you said, probably scared of the alternative. I've been there myself before.

You're probably right that me throwing my lack of interest in boys back at her wouldn't help. I think my friend has told her that I'm not straight, but when you get into that frame of mind where you're just feeling that insecure, it really doesn't make a whole lot of difference.

I feel sorry for her, I really do, but she's not my problem.

I could analyze that. I don't know too much about the girl at all, so it's hard to comment. I've just found in experience that those that are so all-fired jealous that they think everyone is after thier man/woman, are also homophobic as all hell. The only thing worse than someone stealing their man would be a lesbian stealing their man - think of the slap in the face that is? Or worse, she'll all of a sudden realize that you're not after him - but her - and that will just squick her out so badly she'll have the urge to punch you.

I might be living in the 80s though, the last 5 years of my life have been blissfully free of people like that, although my teenage years (and sadly my marriage) were full of them.

Your last line sums it up nicely, it's not your problem. I hope your friend gets it all straightened out though, or he's going to be a pretty miserable guy.